Play for Win

If you only ever work to protect what you’ve already have, you miss out on accomplishing what still waiting to be done and seizing the opportunities inherent in change. To quote Helen Keller: “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.”   So play to win. Not to not lose. In the larger game of life, playing safe is the most dangerous game plan of all.

When you play to win in the bigger game of life you won’t always kick the game-winning goal. Sometimes you will fall short of the mark, and sometimes your risks won’t pay off as you’d hoped. But you have to ask yourself what bigger prize you put at risk when you go through life focused only on protecting what you have, avoiding any risk of failing and chance of losing face?

In what kinds of situations are you most effective? What factors strengthen—or undermine—your motivation? People answer these questions in very different ways, and that’s the challenge at the heart of good management—whether you’re managing your own performance or someone else’s. One-size-fits-all principles don’t work. The strategies that help you excel may not help your colleagues or your direct reports; what works for your boss or your mentor doesn’t always work for you. Personality matters.

FORGIVENESS

Why do we find it so Hard to forgive?

One reason we resist forgiving is that we don’t really understand what forgiveness is and how it works.  We think we do but we don’t.

People who look for reason in everything that happens becomes neurotic and superstitious.  Life is about “LIVING”.

Remember there is something good in all seeming failures.  You are not to see it now. Time will reveal it. Be patient.

If it is really becoming difficult for you to ‘Forgive’ others ask “Who stops you forgiving others,  “It’s only You!!”

We associate so many reasons to ourselves not to forgive others because at times we think

• Others need to be corrected first
• Others need to understand that they did mistake in past and unless they correct themselves and say sorry to us or Admit and confirm that it was they who was wrong.

It is not our job to correct others for their mistakes.  It is not our duty to correct others, we need to understand that we are unique individuals and we have to love this difference.  Love others for what they are rather thinking about changing others or waiting to forgive till somebody changes.

To forgive there has to be no condition; you need not to forgive yourself or others based on “Some condition”.

Remember:  Whatever happens is a part of divine plan; the person who has hurt me is only an instrument of that divine order.

While being sensitive and loving, we must give way to practicality and be willing to let go of past relations and people who have once been close to us, to truly feel happy in the long run.

For lasting happiness, we must learn to be wise enough to realize when it is time to let go and to be strong enough to do it.

Whether it’s dear relationships which have taken a different turn, or a job you are now stagnating in, the trick to be able to enjoy things of the past is to let go of them at the right time.

Leave past events to where they truly belong – in the past.

Forgiveness has to be a value or virtue.

Let go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

THE MACHINE THAT NEVER SLEEPS!!

Your subconscious mind is working right now, day and night; to make sure that you become precisely the person you have unconsciously described yourself to be.  If your program pictures you as having trouble earning enough income, your subconscious mind is doing everything it can right now, to make sure that you have trouble earning more money.   If you have conditioned yourself to believe that you can’t stick to a diet, you can be sure that your subconscious mind will make sure that no diet will work for you – at least not for long!  Your subconscious can only do for you what you (and others) tell it to do.

Think for a moment of the dreams you know you could have accomplished in your own life; think of the talents and skills already within you, which could have been developed into lasting achievement had you just had the right amount of self-belief the belief that you could instead of the belief that you could not.  Most of us, if given a magic wand, which when waved could fulfill any of our dreams, would most certainly make some changes in our lives.

All of us have had the dreams.  All of us deserve to see our dreams come true.  Were it not for the brick wall of bad programming that stands in our way, each of us, each day, would be living out  more of those dreams, reaching heights of attainment we seldom even dream of.

We have learned that what we put into our brain is what we will get back out.  We also learned that the subconscious mind is a sponge – it will believe anything you tell it – it will even believe a lie – if you tell it often enough and strongly enough.  The programming part of the brain makes no moral judgments; it simply accepts what you tell it.  The desktop computer at the office doesn’t care what is programmed into it.  It never questions whether you are telling it the truth or not.  It just accepts and acts upon whatever you program into it.  It makes no difference whether the things you have told yourself or believed about yourself in the past were true or not.  The brain doesn’t care!

We have told ourselves over and over, consciously and unconsciously, what does not work.  In the past, too often we learned to automatically believe the worst first, and the best last.

# To Change or Not to Change

At this moment, or at some time in future, you may make the decision to make a change.  It is likely that you already know what you would like to do.  If that is the case, if your innermost mind tells you that it is the time, then it is time.

Shakespeare wrote the words “To be or not to be …” he may not have known that  he touched the essence of self.  To be or not to be , that is the question.  To become or not to become; to achieve or not to achieve; to do or not to do – the answer to that question is the answer which will determine the future and the success of each of us.

It’s a good idea to take stock of our progress.  It is healthy to ask ourselves how well are we doing.  We have the right and the need to gauge, judge and assess our own forward motion.  Are we getting anywhere, or aren’t we? Are we doing what we want to do, or would we like to do something else, something better?  Do we have every part of ourselves in line and in tune with our finest expectations, or would we like to make a change or two?

Most of us have changes we would like to make in our lives. There are times when we want to make a small change, something that will help us do something differently, or deal with something in a better way than we deal with it in the past.

If making life “work” is as simple as making a few changes, why don’t we do it?

Whatever you want in life or achieve “Work on your Subconscious Level & Belief “first.