FORGIVENESS
Why do we find it so Hard to forgive?
One reason we resist forgiving is that we don’t really understand what forgiveness is and how it works. We think we do but we don’t.
People who look for reason in everything that happens becomes neurotic and superstitious. Life is about “LIVING”.
Remember there is something good in all seeming failures. You are not to see it now. Time will reveal it. Be patient.
If it is really becoming difficult for you to ‘Forgive’ others ask “Who stops you forgiving others, “It’s only You!!”
We associate so many reasons to ourselves not to forgive others because at times we think
- Others need to be corrected first
- Others need to understand that they did mistake in past and unless they correct themselves and say sorry to us or Admit and confirm that it was they who was wrong.
It is not our job to correct others for their mistakes. It is not our duty to correct others, we need to understand that we are unique individuals and we have to love this difference. Love others for what they are rather thinking about changing others or waiting to forgive till somebody changes.
To forgive there has to be no condition; you need not to forgive yourself or others based on “Some condition”.
Remember: Whatever happens is a part of divine plan; the person who has hurt me is only an instrument of that divine order.
While being sensitive and loving, we must give way to practicality and be willing to let go of past relations and people who have once been close to us, to truly feel happy in the long run.
For lasting happiness, we must learn to be wise enough to realize when it is time to let go and to be strong enough to do it.
Whether it’s dear relationships which have taken a different turn, or a job you are now stagnating in, the trick to be able to enjoy things of the past is to let go of them at the right time.
Leave past events to where they truly belong – in the past.
Forgiveness has to be a value or virtue.
Let go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.